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body image- the subjective picture or mental image of one's own body.
does anyone else hear this term and cringe a bit? i do; mainly because it’s such a controversial topic. there is no right “body type” - we all have a different opinion of what’s “beautiful,” and let’s be honest, it’s difficult to see our reflection as we all truly are: beautiful.
as uncomfortable as “body image” makes me, that’s the reason why i started revie. i want everyone to have a positive body image, because i didn’t for years.
here’s my story.
i’m five foot even and small from every angle- every girls dream right? wrong. growing up i would wear my cheer shorts under my jeans with a belt so they would fit. my legs were too long for the width of my waist so i had to choose; high waters or shorts under jeans? i never weighed enough- i didn’t hit 100lbs until college, and i celebrated! did i mention i have a baby face? i’m destined to look 15 forever and i'm told this daily.
in college i decided to focus more on my body… maybe that would make me more confident, right? WRONG. granted, i love how my body changed during those four years. i lifted a LOT, i ran a LOT, and i ate healthy a LOT. i finally had hips, and i could wear a few pairs of jeans without a belt. winning!
after getting the body i wanted and was proud of, i still tore myself apart in the mirror. why? because i never worked on the mental aspect. i never told myself, “dang girl! you look good.” i would only see how short, or small, or girlish i still looked.
once i realized this flaw in my super lax plan to love myself, my mental view changed. i began complimenting myself when i looked in the mirror. it sounds silly and conceited at first, but not if you do it in the correct way. compliment yourself by noticing your strengths, and soon your weaknesses will seem trivial. slowly you will become more confident, in tune with your body, and will respect other types of women more. we aren’t on this earth to pick apart each woman we see in the grocery store or coffee shop. we are here to lift each other up!
if you have body image issues, make the decision to work on it. you deserve to be happy and enjoy the body you were blessed with. start a journal recording your strengths: body and mind. write about how you feel, and make goals based on how you want to feel. you will reap the benefits quickly.
so, look in the mirror today and say, “hey girl, your nose is perfect,” “dang, my hair is on point,” and “this top makes me feel like i can conquer the world!” over time confidence will flow out of you. of course you might have a few rough days even as you gain confidence, but that’s called balance and real life. embrace it, acknowledge the feeling and let it go so that you will have given yourself more room for the confidence you deserve.
there’s nothing wrong with self-love and a little “fake it ‘til you make it.”
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keep it real,